The most humbling moment, being the mom that’s looked up to.
My week has been tough, what about you?
The kids are almost out of school for the summer, we moved to a duplex in a more rural area. Recently, I found out we have more in common with our neighbor than we thought.
The only difference between us she is a single mom, where as I am not. I am a step mom of two and biological mother to one. Mother to three none the less.
Anyway, after a few weeks we started introducing ourselves to each other. I mean, all that’s between us is a wall… so may as well get acquainted right? Turns out, her children see the same counseling agency as my step children.
The first time we found that out is when we seen the case manager go from one driveway to the other. It was like ‘oh he literally just went from their driveway to ours, of course he didn’t mention it, understandably due to privacy acts, laws, etc. But, the more me and the neighbor mom started talking we realized that our children have the same counseling agency. Pretty cool, at least to me.
Yesterday, after visiting her side a few times I broke down and helped her clean and put ideas together on making mom life easier for her. It was an amazing feeling for me, I was finally able to help someone, without making them feel like garbage because her house isn’t pristine. I mean what house is perfectly clean with five kids running around, especially a single mom with people claiming to help her but don’t ?
It kind of hit me emotionally, she is a single mother with her own family bad mouthing her as they walk out her door, and not even help her, but yet they have her run them around and other stuff into ungodly hours. How can you expect a mom to keep everything together when everyone and their cousin has her running around, and her kids aren’t able to get on a sleep schedule?
I don’t know if i got lucky, or i’m just very assertive in nature where i’m able to get people in order and have a schedule. She feels like I’m super mom, and i don’t think I am. The only thing I feel like I do differently, is have a schedule and do my best to not bend the rules. It pained me to see her so stressed out.
After a few hours there, we managed to get a handle on things and straighten up to help her feel less overwhelmed. She was still amazed I followed through on my word of helping her, instead of being judgmental.
I learned a lot in a short period of time, instead of just hearing from the other side of the wall.
If you have a neighbor or good friend you see struggle, try to help. Judging them and their situation isn’t going to solve much of anything besides make them feel sh*tty. Be a decent human being and just lend a hand, pick up with them, try to help them settle their kids.
Lastly, to this day I stun everyone with my age. At just twenty four years old, I’m a mom of three, an 11 year old, a 8 year old and a 2 year old. I live to help everyone I can, never financially because I struggle with finances. It is an amazing feeling to change someones outlook and help them out, you can’t put a price tag on being a good person.
It’s the little victories that count.
Always stay be humble and kind.
Cassie
